Armor of skepticism

For years, I watched
two people who were crazy
(in general & about each other)
eviscerate their vows
then (not) resolve everything with
“I just love you too much.”

For years, I used
those instances & disappointments
(with unworthy boys)
to forge an armor of skepticism
behind which I hid and thought,
“No one can hurt me this way.”

For years, I figured
that it was safer to write
about (the kind of) love
that seemed to exist
in other people’s lives
or in a work of fiction.

Yet all it took was
an earnest man’s kiss
to strip away years of doubt
and his strong embrace tethered me
to a new world where anything was possible
because we were together.

Reminders to help you live a happier life

Slow down & don’t spread yourself too thin.
There’s a fine line between efficiency and doing too much. Never take on more than you can accomplish. Learn to prioritize what needs to be done, so you can do each well. At the end of the day, you should be ready for rest but not completely drained.

Embrace the positive.
Don’t bemoan the things that don’t go your way. Don’t get stuck in a rut from the daily work/school grind. Instead of getting bogged down by what goes wrong, embrace the positive. Consider what goes right in your day and focus on that.

Let go of toxic people & surround yourself with supportive people.
Stay away from toxic, joyless people. Being around those who constantly complain will bring you down. Don’t put up with people who belittle and degrade you. It’s difficult when family members or former close friends are toxic people, but remember — you’re entitled to be happy on your own terms. Build a support system of people who can handle what life throws their way and who will help you do the same.

Be thankful.
When your alarm starts ringing, it’s natural to dread getting out of bed. Rather than begging your significant other to let you sleep for five more minutes (as I do, most days), be thankful that you woke up to a new day. Be grateful for the awesome people and opportunities in your life.

Enjoy every moment.


There will be a little girl with
your dark eyes and my small feet,
who will be the best striker on her soccer team.

There will be a little boy with
your naturally straight teeth and my unruly hair,
who will play “Für Elise” on the piano.

There will be an adolescent girl who
will sigh in exasperation when she is
suspended for punching a racist classmate.

There will be a teenage boy who
will wreck your motorcycle after
sneaking out for a midnight joyride.

There will be two (grown) kids who
reluctantly admit that they learned how
to survive in the real world with our help.

In spite of everything (I’m not my mother)

In spite of her best attempts
to berate me into submission,
I’m not (& will never be)
the person my mother wishes I was

In spite of years of her criticism
about my short stature and crazy curly hair,
I (finally) know I am beautiful
comfortably unconventional
(tradition & I never clicked).

In spite of her insistence that
friends cannot be family,
mine have proven (repeatedly)
that we’re the family we’ve chosen
(our bond is stronger than blood).

In spite of the fact that my point of reference
for relationships was the most unstable couple,
(who happened to be) my parents,
I’ve found love with the best man I’ve ever met
(we’re their polar opposite).


Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, yet people skip it (myself included, sometimes) because of they don’t have time to make (or eat) it. You can make this dish in less than thirty minutes and consume it in half the prep time. Start your day off right with a protein-packed breakfast so you’ll stay energized for the rest of the day (or at least, until lunch).

Makes 1 serving
Prep & cooking time: 20-25 minutes




  • 1 very ripe large avocado
  • sea salt
  • black pepper pepper
  • parsley
  • red pepper flakes
  • 2 small eggs
  • optional: cooked crumbled bacon


  1. Preheat oven to 425 degrees.
  2. Slice avocado in half and remove pit. Scoop a little more of each avocado half out, in order to create a slightly larger hollow. Put avocado halves in a foil-lined baking pan. (I used an aluminum pie pan.)
  3. Carefully, remove some of the egg whites from each egg and refrigerate for future use. Transfer yolk and rest of egg whites to each avocado half.
  4. Season with sea salt, black pepper, parsley, and red pepper flakes. Bake for 15 to 20 minutes. If you want your egg yolks to be more runny, bake for 15 minutes. If you want your egg yolks to be firmer, bake for 18-20 minutes.
  5. Remove pan from oven, top with crumbled bacon, and let cool. Enjoy!